Friday, July 30, 2010

My View From Here

So far my vacation has been a lot of sitting on the deck of the house which sits right on the beach.  Soaking in the sun, playing in the sand, splashing in the water, taking long walks on the beach, relaxing, snapping photos, searching for shells, laughing, eating, napping, having fun, sharing stories, watching the dolphins at play, and the pelicans soar and search for fish, singing late into the night, and catching up with family.  In other words, just perfect! 
I did do a couple of photo shoots, that was fun too!  Nothing stressful, just family fun.  
Now on to the next leg of the vacation with the rest of the family.  I could get used to this...

Friday, July 23, 2010

Finally Friday!

It has been a long and busy week and I am ready for a break!  Good thing that I have one coming.  That's right, as of tomorrow I am off for vacation.  I will be heading south for a family reunion.  We will all be meeting up on the Outer Banks for a week of fun in th sun, surf and sand and a lot of nothing much to do!  Here:



Don't hate me, I deserve it!  Truly, I do.  Besides, I will be sharing two very large houses with my family which consists of: me and hubby (who will only be there for 2 nights!), Mom & Dad from Florida, Sis & BIL from OH with their 2 girls (17 &16), Sis and BIL from VT with their son & daughter (15 & 11), Sis from VT with her son & daughter (12 & 9) , Sis and SO from CA with her sons (17 & 13) Bro and SIL from CA, withOUT their 3 sons (Daniel passed away this past Spring) and Bro and SIL from CA with their daughter (23) their son and DIL won't be able to make it either.  Sadly my kids can't come.  Michelle can't get off work-Tim couldn't either.  Anyway, it's going to be crowded, but fun!

I'll return home on Thursday, unpack, clean clothes and re-pack as then we will be heading out for a wedding in Erie, Pa.  Jim, myself, Michelle & Bella.  Timmy will stay at the house for us while we are gone and take care of the dogs and such.  Our nephew is getting married on Saturday, so we are heading up there for the wedding.  Busy, busy!

So, if you don't hear from me for a while, that is where I will be. 
I don't plan on taking my computer with me to the beach, sand and all.  But, if someone else has one, you may just hear from me, but who knows!

Until then...

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Sunday Fun!

Last week Jim had taken Bella to the Land of Little Horses in Gettysburgh, Pa. for the day.  On the way there they saw some monuments and passed the Boyds Bear Factory.  That evening at dinner Bella asked us if we didn't have any other plans, if maybe on Sunday we could all go to Gettysburgh as a family and go to Boyds Bear and see some monuments. Well Jim and Michelle were all over that!  They both love to go look at those old monuments.  Me, well I've seen them before.  Lots.  They have too, but still they never seem to tire of seeing them.  But I was a trooper and went along and had a good time, despite a bit of a migraine that had been hanging on for days. 

Our first stop was the Boyds Bear Factory.  That place is really quite something.  It is a four story barn that is just full of bears!  There are different vignettes all over, Noah's Ark, jungle theme, patriotic, Christmas, baby, etc.  Really cute.  Upstairs you can 'adopt' a bear in the nursery-that starts at $50 a bear or you can build your own 'critter' for starting at just $20.  Bella really wanted to adopt but we talked her into creating her own.  Not that we have anything against adoption,  but I think we will have to save up for that!
Working on her 'Critter'
Ginger the Giraffe
In the pajamas Bella choose for Ginger
All boxed up and ready to go!

Then we went to see a few of the monuments.  We didn't do too much, but we did make it to Devil's Den and Little Round Top and a few other sites.  Bella loved to look a them and was especially interested in the monuments that looked like men or horses.  Of course, she loved the castle! 

We saw a group of tourists taking a tour of the battlefields on Segways, that was something that we had not seen before and that looked kind of fun.  Might like to try that out.  I've always wated to do the tour on horseback though, I think that might be fun.  Jim said that the horses would take one look at him and claim they were off duty.  Ha!  
 It was a hot day, but there was a nice breeze so it wasn't too bad.
Atop the rocks at Devil's Den
Even after all the years of going here though, it still gets to me.  The beauty of this place, the sacrifices made here, the number of men who died here, it is staggering. 

We ended our trip with lunch at Dobbins Tavern in the heart of Gettysburgh.  We ate in the Springhouse, which is downstairs and is nice and cool.  The Rev. Dobbins built the house and a school on 300 acres he bought for his family, he lived there with his wife Isabella with whom he had ten children.  She died an early death and he later married a woman who had nine children of her own!  Can you imagine!
Anyway, later the home was used as a 'station' for runaway slaves on the "Underground Railroad" and the house is a museum to that today.  Its pretty neat! 
Lunch was good too! 

It was a very pleasant day and it was a lot of fun to see how Bella was interested in everything.  She wanted to know about the war and why we had it.  I don't know how much she could understand, but it will sink in given time.  What's funny is that night we adults were all worn out and she was raring to go.  She usually goes right to sleep, but she just laid in bed with those big brown eyes wide open for a long time.  Have to wonder what she is thinking about sometimes!

Monday, July 19, 2010

Carole King sang it...

'I feel the earth move under my feet.'  And that my friends is what was the big topic of discussion around these parts on Friday.  Did you feel it?  Did you hear it?  What was it?  An earthquake!  That's right, an earthquake-right here in Maryland.  A very rare occurance indeed, but one that we may live to see again, or not.  Not a very big earthquake in comparrison to California terms, only a 3.6 on the richter scale, but an earthquake non the less.  The largest in this area since they have begun to keep records of these kinds of things anyway.
Friday morning everyone was talking about it.  So I'll tell you my experience.  I was awakened about 5:00 am on Friday morning by a loud noise and I sat bolt upright in bed and looked around.  The dogs were sleeping on the floor, Jim had left for work and the girls were still asleep in their beds.  The house was still and quiet again, so I laid back down and fell back to sleep.  That is my entire earthquake experience, and that was quite enough.  No damage, no injuries, just a loud rumble and a little shake. 
So that was Friday's excitement.  California can keep it.
Now an update on Tim.  He finally saw a doctor!  We nagged him and nagged him but it wasn't until his girlfriend told him to go to the doctors did he go, but he went which is all I care about.  Anyway, he went in and told the doctor that he'd been hit by a car and he knows he should have come in sooner, but he didn't, could he just take some x-rays or something and tell him what was wrong.  The doctor seemed to know he was dealing with a hard headed young man and told him he should have gotten stitches in the laceration in his head (which he hadn't told me about), but it was too late to stitch now, his exam also revealed three broken ribs, a broken finger, and foot and a badly bruised knee.  He trussed him up like a turkey, gave him a note and sent him on his way. My poor, hard headed boy!  Makes me want to stroke his head before I  knock some sense into it! Ha!  Just kidding...Sort of.
  

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Momma's Boy

I am a mother.   MOTHER. 
                                                       MOM.
                                           Ma.
                                                                                   MoMMy.                                                        
 Wikipedia defines a mother this way:  A mother is a woman who has, conceived, given birth to, and raised a child.[1] Because of the complexity and differences of a mothers' social, cultural, and religious definitions and roles, it is challenging to define a mother to suit a universally accepted definition. The masculine equivalent is a father.

And although I might take issue with the last sentence in that statement, that is a whole other post in and of itself!


By any name, it means the same.  It helps to define who I am, who I have grown to be, who I live to be.
Can't escape that title, nor would I wish to.  It is something from which we as women, never outgrow.  Once we become a mother, it is a title that we will always carry no matter how old our children get, no matter where they go, what they do, who they become, or God forbid, they should leave this world.  We are always a mother.  The worrying never ends.  Oh sure, it may change a little through the years but it never quite goes away.  Think back to when you were pregnant, your worried that you ate the right things, that the baby be healthy, that you might have an easy labor, what we didn't know was that was the easy part.  Then when they were born, you worried about keeping them safe, your worries became more real, more grounded, it was hard to keep them safe.  Safe from illness, hurt and pain, you worry that you will raise them well, that people won't cringe when they see your child coming, that he won't be known as the terror of the neighborhood, that he/she be a good person and grow to love and know God, be moral, be of good character, hold tight to what is true, to their beliefs.  Some of those things never change, nor does our worry.   
Which brings me to this-
My boy, my son, my child.

Keep him in your prayers today if you will.  Last night he was involved in a bit of an accident, pedestrian vs. car- he being the pedestrian.  He claims to be the victor, I have my doubts.  He was tossed onto the hood of the car and actually broke the windshield of the car with part of his body, I am assuming it was his head knowing as I do, that that is the hardest part of his body, but I am not certain.  He did not go to the hospital instead he went to work, where they promptly sent him home being that they have you know, a brain in their head! 
But  he's okay and I should not worry, he had two waiters check him out- one is an EMT and the other a nurse.  That's encouraging.  Really. 
Or you know- Not! 
I asked him to come home so Mom could love on him.  He said ' Oh come on Mom, that's gross!' 
Gross?  While I beg to differ, I won't argue with him at this time, but I am saving some loving up for the next time, just you wait and see. 
Guys.  Ugh!  Why must they be so stubborn, so bull-headed, so, so, Guyish?!
Trust me, if that had been my daughter she would have had an ambulance take her to the hospital and made sure that if it was driven by cute guys that they carried her stretcher like a throne while feeding her peeled grapes and tasty IV bag, and the driver kneel before her like a suppliant begging for a second chance.  She would have been strong, but not taken any chances.
OK, well that's probably more me than Michelle, she might have fought it too but you get my point.
This driver hit my kid, with a car for crying out loud.  She should have insisted that he be checked out by medical personnel and not taken any chances.  Bet she's not a mom!
So anyway, say a prayer if you will.  That he is safe, that he is healthy, that his  head heals because we know there must be something wrong with it since he won't listen to his MOTHER!!
That's all I have to say.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Weekend Recap!

I'm a day late in posting this, but so what! 
Friday night Michelle and I went to see Eclipse.  It is the third in the Twilight saga for those of you who have been living in a cave.  It was good, mostly enjoyed my time with Michelle.  The movie theatre sure was crowded though.  It was the opening day for Despicable Me and we went to the 8:15 showing of Eclipse and there was a long line for the next seating of Despicable Me!  Jim had taken  Bella to see it earlier in the day and they both really liked it.  Jim said that he would readily see it again, and that is saying a lot!

Saturday I felt kinda lazy and didn't feel much like getting up.  I just laid on the couch for a while watching cartoons with Isabella.  I finally got up and decided to do something so I painted the mud room!  I have wanted to get started on that project for so long now but just have not found the time, so I figured I might as well get going on it.  I got it all taped up and then did the cutting in a took a break, working in a small room like that it gets hot very quick!  Once I was able to start rolling, it went very quickly.  I finished and got all cleaned up and had just gotten out of the shower when Jim got home from work.  Bella practically dragged him in to show him what I had done. 

Then Jim surprised me by asking what my plans were.  I said that I didn't have any, that I had just talked to Durinda.  He casually asked what she and Andy were up to and when I replied nothing much he said good, lets go see them.  So after a little convincing, we packed a bag and jumped in the car and headed on down to Williamsburg to see them.  Got there and Durinda was waiting for me with an ice cold glass of Sangria, how's that for Southern hospitality?!  M-mmm!  We had a great time!  Had a real nice dinner together and I got to totally drool over Durinda's new craft room.  OMG!!  It is just to die for!  Gorgeous!  Durinda designed it herself and it is just beautiful, very well appointed, comfortable and elegant-just like Durinda!
Sunday morning we went to breakfast and then spent some time shopping before Jim and I had to head up the road for home again.  It was sure a nice albeit brief, get away.  Thanks so much you two!

It was nice to get home on Sunday and see Bella though, as she was very happy to see us!  Michelle too I think.  We were able to unwind a bit before it was time to fix dinner and get ready for Monday morning to roll around and the week to begin again.

Monday, July 12, 2010

What did you do?

I've thought about this a lot question a lot, wondering over and over how best to respond.  It might seem like a simple enough question on the surface.  But trying to find a way to respond that is best for me and the person questioning can be difficult. 

Let me start at the beginning for you, where this begins anyway.  Muscular Dystrophy, myotonic dystrophy to be specific.  It is important for me to state that I am not at all embarrased by my disease nor am I in any way ashamed, nor do I feel like I have a particular burden in life to carry.  It simply is what it is.  "Myotonia is a symptom of a small handful of certain neuromuscular disorders characterized by the slow relaxation of the muscles after voluntary contraction or electrical stimulation. Generally, repeated effort is needed to relax the muscles, and the condition improves after the muscles have warmed-up." So, for me this often results in a fairly significant limp or staggering gait, until my muscles have warmed-up or been able to relax.  I can't control it and I don't know when it is going to happen, it is nothing that I can feel in advance.  So it is very noticible.  I have been known to stumble occasionally, although rarely fall.  Sometimes I have no limp at all, sometimes I limp a lot.  So, the question(s) often comes up: "What did you do?" "Did you hurt yourself?" "Are you okay?" or the dreaded comment about my age!  So how do I respond?  How would you? 

I have tried to defer with the 'I'm fine' or waving away the question with a smile and a wink, like I have a sceret or was caught in the act or something.  But more often than not especially at work, the questions persist.  'Really, can I help you? Should you be doing that' and on, and on.  Because I know the questions come mostly from a place of concern I am not bothered by them, it is not that people are nosey but concerned.  And so I answer as best and as simply as I can.  I say that nothing is wrong that I have MD and my muscles are a little stiff but that they'd loosen up in time and I'd be fine.  But then, more often than not it happens, the person in question mumbles something about not knowing, averts their eyes and tries to make a quick escape.  I have embarrased them, leaving them to feel as though they have opened a door best left unopened.  My intent of course is not to make anyone uncomfortable meerly to answer their question.  I don't want to lie and say that I hurt myself or something of the like as that just doesn't seem right.  I am direct and choose to answer that way yet I don't wish to make anyone feel badly.  I don't tell the truth to engender sympathy because I don't  need sympathy.  I am living well it just happens to be with Muscular Dystrophy.  I have been extraordinarily Blessed in my life and have nothing to feel sorry for myself for. I work hard at being a good steward of God's love, a hard worker, and the best that I can be.  Sometimes it is difficult to live with the pain I wont lie, but I really don't think that I have ever thought of myself as having been cursed or saddled with this disease nor have wished that it was someone else instead of me.  It is me and I don't mind talking about it.  I try not to bore people with the details, but if you ask I might tell you. So, why does it make people so uncomfortable?  Is there a better way to answer that question?  What would you do?  If you were to ask me that question, how would you like for me to answer you? 
I'd really like to hear from you.